Confident and Killing It: Negative Thought Detector

It’s time to get SASSY with the Mean Girl in your mind with Tiwalola Ogunlesi’s Confident and Killing It. Are you ready to put your mind to the test with the Negative Thought Detector?

In 2018, I was hosting one of my Confident and Killing It events in London. There were about fifty women in the room who had bought tickets to come and hear me speak. The event was called ‘Own Your Story’ and was about learning to know your truth, speak your truth and celebrate your truth. As I was speaking, I was met with a sea of faces looking intently, taking notes and processing all that I was saying. At that moment, my Mean Girl showed up and whispered, ‘Look at all their faces. They’re bored. You need to shut up right now. You need to end this event. You’ve been talking for too long. They don’t care, they just want to go home. Shut up, shut up, shut uuuuup.’

Bear in mind, all of this was happening as I was standing in front of fifty women, talking to them about confidence. This was not the time for this BS. In that moment I had two choices, choices which are available to all of us. I could listen to my Mean Girl (and end the event early) or I could ask myself some questions to confirm the validity of what she was saying. I did that using the Negative Thought Detector. Here’s how it works…


Click here to download the Negative Thought Detector!

Confident and Killing It by Tiwalola Ogunlesi is out now, available in hardback, eBook and audio.

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